Curiosity Is The Relationship Superpower

​If forced to identify my superpower, I'd say it is curiosity. Nothing fuels my desire to get out of bed in the morning more than my desire to understand human stories. And people seem to respond well to my wanting to better understand them.

Whether it's a young man at the checkout counter at 7-11, a waitress at Olive Garden, or a law enforcement officer at a training I'm leading—I am obsessed with the human story. I am obsessed with discovering the greater meaning in every human encounter.

And maybe—I am thinking this morning—my obsession isn't totally driven by what I want to do, or who I want to be, but also by what I want to receive.

Maybe curiosity is as much love language as it is superpower.

A friend asked me yesterday, "Do you mainly write about things you experience in your day to day life, the people you meet, the situations that happen to someone you know?"

To you the reader maybe that seems like quite a simple question. But it didn't feel so normal. I've found myself reflecting on that.

What exactly is this power behind the curiosity superpower? It feels seductive in ways; and I mean that well beyond romantic seduction.

To me, when someone is curious about you it feels like they're silently saying: "There's something inside you worth discovering."

I am wondering this morning just how important this desire to discover is in any great relationship.

Whether this is friendship, or romance, or even a leader with her followers, no great relationship seems to be held together by ongoing excitement, it feels like they need ongoing discovery.

Because the moment we believe we've figured someone out, curiosity dies. And when curiosity dies, we no longer need to pay attention to the people we are in a relationship with. We simply begin relating to them through our assumptions about them and not all that we still long to learn about them.

Curiosity keeps a relationship alive because it refuses to let another human become so familiar to us that we stop exploring them.

Is curiosity one of the purest forms of love?

Not because it agrees. Not because it approves. But because curiosity says you are worth staying around long enough to ask another question. It says there is still so much more to uncover in you that I can't help but want to know.

I believe somewhere in us all is a desire to be uncovered. It's why I see so many lives brightly come to life on the other side of what to me feels like quite simple questions.

But it turns out this chance to be uncovered is not simple at all.

When you are on the receiving end of the uncovering, you begin to intimately get that—and can't help but want to make your curiosity superpower more powerful than it already is.

If you want to strengthen a relationship in your life, don't underestimate the power or curiosity. The SUPERPOWER of curiosity. There are so many people roaming the world believing they have nothing worth uncovering.

Curiosity says not so fast.

Stop roaming.

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