Do We Really Want What We Want?

​Is it possible that many of us wrestle with challenging feelings that come with not getting things we never really wanted in the first place?

Is it possible some of us were pointed to a career path we never wanted to follow, and now wrestle with not getting there - or worse - getting there and hating every minute of being there?

Is it possible that some of us live pursuing a bigger house we never in our lives wanted until our best friend got a bigger house?

Is it possible that some of us wrestle with being single only because the world tells us we have too much going for us to be living alone - as if NOT living alone validates our worth?

Is it possible some of us STAY in relationships for the same reason?

Is it possible some of us show up to church every Sunday because someone said we need to show up to church every Sunday, and yet, in doing so, never come to know the God who we supposedly go there to see?

Showing up can check a box, but is it the box we long to check?

To know what you really want you have to know who you really are. How many of us take time each day - or week - or even this year reflecting on who we truly are?

How much does the life I live, the things I have, the things I say - how much does any of it really reflect who I am inside? The closer those answers are to everything, the closer we likely are to peace and contentment. The further away they are, the more likely it is we need someone to help us understand we don't really want what we think we want.

The world makes a lot of money convincing us we want things we don't want - through advertisement and comparison. A lot of people feel deeply fulfilled when they see us achieve the dreams they dreamed for us. But all of that often comes at a great cost.

The cost is us.