Heartbreak or celebration? It's our choice.

​I read this question from Seth Godin this morning:

"When the person you could have been meets the person you are becoming, is it going to be a cause for celebration or heartbreak?"

I read that question. Then I read it again. And in a moment, much of the heartbreak of my life, heartbreak I haven't always understood, made more sense to me than it ever had. Because for too much of my life, I woke up every day knowing the man I was becoming wasn't near the man I could have been.

I think we all ask ourselves that question. Every day. Maybe many times each day, often without even knowing we are asking it; when I think about who I'm becoming against the backdrop of who I could have become, heartbreak or celebration?

On the flipside, that question also explains why life, which at times feels more challenging than ever, feels far more worthy of a celebration these days than it has in a long time. Because the challenges I feel these days are challenges I'm overcoming in the direction of who I could have been and not challenges associated with me hiding from the heartbreak of being nowhere near that man.

It's the beauty of life, really. Each day I get to ask that question, celebration or heartbreak? And no matter what the answer, I get to use the day to prepare for one or the other.

Another heartbreak or another celebration.

I can reflect on my life and know, without a doubt, the days that answer has been heartbreak have been days when the choices of who I was becoming did not align with the choices of the me I could have been.

The beautiful thing about choices? We always have the choice of making different ones.

If you ask yourself this morning, when the person I could have been meets who I'm becoming today, heartbreak or a celebration, and the answer is heartbreak, don't live in that heartbreak.

Make some new choices.

Make so new choices and start planning a celebration.

Heartbreak or celebration, the choice is always ours.

Celebrate.