I have Changed Before, So I Can Change Again

​If you think I can't change, you are clearly not familiar with how much I already have.

If it sounds like I am directing that at you, I am not. I am having a conversation with myself. Out loud. Maybe for the possibility it's a conversation that will be helpful to you as well.

To me, life is always about change and growth. It's taken me a long time to realize that. A lot of my life I imagined a sweet spot where one lands and life no longer demands so much adapting and shifting.

So much daggone changing.

But the more I looked for that sweet spot in life the more life seemed to turn up sour. Until I realized the sweet spot is accepting that life is a journey of change and not a journey pointed to some predefined idea of what the sweet life must surely be.

Living the sweet life is much more about how you DO life and not so much a place where you land in life.

With that said, full disclosure, although I cognitively understand that truth about change these days, I still struggle with the reality of it. There are areas in my life that still invite me to change, some invitations are actually quite persistent and loud, and my response is too frequently, that is a change I cannot make.

It's too hard. It demands too much.

Yet here I am. A man whose life could be best defined by hard changes. In many ways I am nothing near the person I once was. Not decades ago. Not years ago. I am not even the man I was last week.

In most ways, that is a healthy revelation. Not all ways, but mostly.

So I remind myself, if you think you can't change, you are clearly not familiar with how much you already have.

And I remind you, if you think you can't change, it might be helpful to take a close look at just how much you already have.

As long as I am changing, I hold out belief and hope that change is possible for everyone.

For me.

For you.

For them.