Life is about healing, not being healed

​If I have heard it once the past year, I've heard it a hundred times. 'Wait until you are healed before you move on' to this or to that. It's said with good and loving intentions. I appreciate it. But here is what I've come to believe about healing.

There is no finish line to healing. Life really is sort of a traumatic deal. We come into this world by exiting the relative darkness and calm of the womb, and we meet the chaos of a world full of light and overwhelming stimulus.

And from there, life becomes a journey of healing.

I believe this: the world is full of far more people who are healing than people who are healed. I talk to people every day who haven't experienced a broken marriage, and yet, they too seem to be trying to heal from something.

I think one thing that stands in the way of healing is the belief that there is a place called healed. One of the things that keeps us from living is the idea that I'm not fully prepared to live until I have somehow met the standard of fully healed.

This idea of healed - I think it goes against the flow of life.

If life truly is about healing, then we were never designed to be healed, we were designed to heal together. If life is truly about the healing, joy isn't found once you're healed, joy is found when you find the people most interested - most invested - in healing together.

There is a joy - a connection - that can be found in let's heal together that can never be found in thank goodness we're all healed. Maybe because healing is authentic; healed is an illusion.

Joy isn't reserved for the sunny days. Joy is found in any day where there are people committed to weathering all weather together.

If you are reading this, you're alive. That makes this a special occasion. If you are reading this, there's a really good chance you are healing, too. That doesn't make your occasion less special.

It might make this day more difficult, I feel for you. But don't make the day even more difficult by believing your healing is standing in your way. Because I'm here to assure you, healing is the way.

Healing will always be the way.