You Are doing better than you think you are

​I've had this conversation with many friends lately: "you're doing better than you think you are."

I could have that conversation with almost anyone. Because for the most part, we are ALL doing better than we think we are.

I had a conversation with a dear friend a couple of weeks ago. She tragically lost her daughter 7 years ago. She told me she hopes that 25 years from now she's handling that a lot better than she does today.

That caught me off guard. Because the way she's handled it the last 7 years has been instrumental in rebuilding the pillars of my faith. They've helped me see a goodness in God in the midst of my own struggles I don't think I'd be seeing without her friendship.

I think she's doing a lot better than she thinks. And I told her that.

These days, I go to God often to hear those exact words. You're doing better than you think. Oh, I come through his back door to hear those words. Seeking them usually starts with telling God I know you're disappointed I've done this, or angry I've done that, or I know you really wish I'd quit doing most of the things I'm doing.

And I always hear him say, not really. I hear him say, I was just sitting here thinking I need to tell you you're doing a lot better than you think you are.

There's freedom in that.

There's freedom because the one thing that holds so many of us up from doing better today are the conversations we have with ourselves about how bad we did yesterday.

I'm here to tell you, you did better yesterday than you think.

You did.

And I'm here to tell you someone needs to hear that from you today. Almost anyone you reach out to today and tell them they're doing better than they think - they'll need to hear it.

Because almost none of us believes we're doing as well as we really are. Almost all of us need to be set free from that.